1. Get clear about what you want from your love making experience. You may think that you already know what this is, especially if you’ve been in your relationship for many years. However, we recommend that you look with new eyes at what your desires are. Expand your possibilities!
2. Share what you discover about your desires with your beloved. It may be something completely new for you to talk about topics other than kids, work, what you want for dinner, or even the weekend’s activities. Be sure you and your lover are alone and away from distractions like the computer or television when having this discussion. Share from your heart without blame or judgment. Let your partner know you want a closer, more loving connection with him or her.
3. Listen to what your partner desires. Encourage your partner to share this with you. Keep your heart open and let go of judgment as you listen. This might require practice as possible triggers may come up. Stay in a place of love as you listen so that your lover will know you are open to what he or she is asking for. If you are not open to your partner’s desires, go inside yourself to understand why. Make note of the thoughts that come up for you. If you are open to your partner’s desires, try them out!
4. Give yourself and your environment a makeover. As a couple, create a beautiful loving space for your love making. This may mean rearranging furniture in your bedroom or other intimate spaces—lessening clutter is a great start! Playing sensual music can spark passion for both of you as well. Let that old bathrobe or sweatpants stay in the closet. Instead, choose what you wear—or don’t wear—with passion in mind. Treat your intimate time as sacred because it is.
These 4 easy steps can help take you to a more passionate, alive and connected love relationship. Go for it as you learn new skills, polish old ones and open your heart!
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