You can’t help but hear or read about sexual intimacy on tv, the movies, in magazines and even song lyrics of all kinds. We’re not talking about pornography either! Sexual innuendo and intimacy-related references are almost everywhere. While sex is quite a popular topic in western culture, it’s not often such an easy or prevalent […]

One of the keys to more intimacy in your relationships and your life is to be open to the other people in your life.In Stephen Covey’s book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, one of the seven habits is to “seek first to understand and then be understood.” We think this is a great

One of the biggest challenges in relationships and marriages today is the fact that most couples don’t feel like they can truly be open, honest and straightforward with their partner or spouse like they used to when they were first together without them getting upset or angry. When you don’t feel safe to be able

At one time or another, we all withhold from the people in our lives, especially in our communication with those we love. We usually do it because we don’t want to hurt them–or so the story goes in our heads–and we do it because we think it’s “best” for them.The fact is–we withhold our truth

You could have knocked us over with a feather when we realized this foundational relationship truth! In fact, we didn’t realize it at the time, but the whole soul mate mystique is based on this idea. Here’s what we’re talking about and it’s a really simple way of understanding relationships (especially ones that work and

The other day, we were asked an interesting question about relationships… The question was– “How honest is too honest in relationships?” In other words, this person wanted to know if we thought you can damage a relationship if you are “too honest?” This question doesn’t just apply to intimate relationships or marriages. It applies to

Recently the two of us really mis-communicated about something that left us feeling angry and distant from each other. The situation was filled with misunderstanding, assumptions, unspoken meanings–and habitual responses that were more about the past than about that situation. Since we had just gone through our “Magic Relationship Words” book for a class we

Here’s a great question from a reader that we think speaks to the communication issue that challenges most couples… “We want to stay connected during our difficult times too. What is the one thing we can do every time my husband and I are angry with each other as we work through the disagreement?” So

Like it or not, everyone (including you, us and everyone else) is selfish.We’d all like to think we’re not selfish but, we are.In our opinion, being selfish isn’t necessarily a bad thing. In fact, being selfish can actually be a good thing but here’s where the problem with being selfish comes in… Most of us