When Jim Morrison from the 60’s rock band “The Doors” sang “Come on, Come On, Come On, Come On now touch me babe,” he was giving some pretty good advice. This is one of the things that many women MOST want from their men and men don’t do it.(At least in the way that she wants…)
The men that we work with tell us…
- “I want my woman to want me more”
- “I want to have more sex”
- “My relationship with my woman just isn’t as intimate or as passionate as it used to be”
And a million other things…
Men want to know…
“What can I do to make things different and better? ”
In our Red Hot Love Relationships book and audio program, we give you 77 skills and ideas for turning up the heat in your relationship (both in and out of the bedroom). If you don’t have a copy of Red Hot Love Relationships, we highly recommend you go get your copy and devour every word of it.
Here’s something we’ve discovered about love and our relationship…
Love, intimacy, passion and smoking-hot sex starts way before you get to the bedroom.
Most guys don’t realize this.
At some level, men think their women should be just like them.
The thought or idea of love, lovemaking or sex comes into men’s minds and then they start visualizing, imagining, hoping, wanting and pretty soon (like in about 3 minutes if all goes well), they’re ready.
The problem is…
It doesn’t work that way for women.
For women…
It’s what happens in the 24 hours (or more) prior to this moment that men want to make something happen in the bedroom that determines whether the women are open to being intimate or sexual or not.
We talk about this a lot and what’s important is…
Men–make love with her ALL day and not just in the 3 minutes before you want to be intimate.
Flirt with her ALL day and not just when you want her to be intimate. Talk to her in a loving way ALL day and not just when you want to get her behind closed doors. Touch her ALL day in loving, gentle, sexy, playful and flirty ways ALL day EVERY day and not just when you “want ” her.
If you’re like most men when you read what we just said…
You’re thinking, “But I do those things, already!”
We’re willing to bet that you don’t.
Otherwise you’d be getting more of what you want from her.
Otto operates from a very simple premise with Susie…
His premise is– “I can get everything I want from her (and more) if I will only give her want she wants from me (her man).”
This sounds so incredibly simple that it sounds almost too simple and too good to be true.
But it’s not.
If you as a man give give your woman everything she wants, the rewards are incredible.
The two of us make love every single day. We’re kind and nice to each other. We laugh and love all the time and it is only going to get better.
The same thing can happen with you if you only make some shifts in your thought, beliefs and actions with each other.
So, what is one thing you can focus on to build more passion, energy, connection and desire with each other?
Men–Do what we suggested a few moments ago and “touch” her.
That’s right.
Touch her.
Your woman is craving your touch.
She wants to feel your caress, a touch on the back, a touch of the hand as you’re putting the dishes away and any other time you can “accidentally” or on purpose touch her.
You can have so much more than you do right now in your relationship or marriage if you will only tune into your woman and give her more of what she wants and this includes “touching.”
Just to make sure we’re clear…
This “touching” that I’m talking about isn’t some manipulative trick to get her into the bedroom more often. A non-sexual touch can demonstrate how much you love her in a way that you might not understand but she will.
Remember, whether your touch is sexual or non-sexual (We suggest you mix it up throughout the day)–it’s about connection with her and NOT about manipulation.
It’s touching her to make HER feel good as well as to increase connection and desire for you.
If you’re a man and want more info on how to light up your woman, visit http://www.LightHerUp.com
Enjoying a Happier, Easier Relationship